How to Handle Success
I have a client right now who is on a main host on a huge national show (I'm going to leave her and the show nameless). She came to me and she said, “This is such a huge opportunity, I don't feel like I'm worthy of it. I'm afraid that somebody is going to tap on my shoulder and be like, we made a mistake and you're not good enough. How do I deal with those feelings? What do I do to grow and feel comfortable in such a huge opportunity?”
And what I said to her was this: We all as artists have this voice inside of our head that sometimes creeps up and tells us that we're not worthy and that we don't deserve to be where we are once we have reached a new level of success that feels uncomfortable to us. And that's kind of when that old saying of, “you got to fake it until you make it” kicks in. You have to tell yourself, “I’m going to be this, I'm going to do this and until I really feel like I deserve to be here, I am going to act like it… I'm going to act like I deserve to be here. I'm going to go through the motions, I’m going to do my job to the best of my ability, and I am going to operate like this is my space and I belong here!” And after a while, this is new level of accomplishment starts to feel like your new normal and you start to feel in alignment that you actually are worthy to be there… and it becomes real for you!
I think that's true for anybody who gets a new level of success; it's uncomfortable and it’s scary and you feel like the rug is going to get pulled out from under you or you’re going to wake up from the dream at any moment. But the truth is, a lot of people made the decision that you need to be where you are right now and they chose you. So, have faith in that, know that you’re meant to be there and if you’re feeling a little unsure, “Fake it until you make it!”.
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